It is a well known fact (feel free to contest me on this as I am clearly not bothered with actual research) that as women spend an increasing amount of time with each other, their monthly cycles begin to align.
There is also the thing called the Break-up Season.
Oh, you know the one: You hear that a friend of yours just broke up with their long-term boyfriend, and then you're told that your cousin and his girlfriend have called it quits as well, then your barista puts far too much milk in your coffee and she starts crying about her failed relationship when you confront her over the counter, etc.
So what happens when you're in a healthy, perfectly imperfect relationship during this season?
Are you supposed to hide your happiness when certain people are present? Do you fake indifference? Have you ever felt the need to create drama within your own relationship simply to fit in? HAHA that last one was a joke, obviously. No seriously, there can't possibly be anybody crazy enough or depraved enough to do that.
I can't give a definite answer to those questions. It depends on your friends, obviously, if they're real friends of yours they wouldn't give a damn if you were glowing with love as long as your shoulder is a freehold lease for their tears when and where they need it. That's my take on things, anyway.
Here's a quote from a fellow blogger for those friends in troubled situations:
"Don't waste time obsessing over someone who gives you nothing in return. If this is what you're experiencing, look at yourself. You're tapping into deep routed issues/patterns of behaviour that run deep in you. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! Don't waste any more of your time. Fix yourself so you don't keep letting the wrong people affect you in the worst way!"
There is also the thing called the Break-up Season.
Oh, you know the one: You hear that a friend of yours just broke up with their long-term boyfriend, and then you're told that your cousin and his girlfriend have called it quits as well, then your barista puts far too much milk in your coffee and she starts crying about her failed relationship when you confront her over the counter, etc.
So what happens when you're in a healthy, perfectly imperfect relationship during this season?
Are you supposed to hide your happiness when certain people are present? Do you fake indifference? Have you ever felt the need to create drama within your own relationship simply to fit in? HAHA that last one was a joke, obviously. No seriously, there can't possibly be anybody crazy enough or depraved enough to do that.
I can't give a definite answer to those questions. It depends on your friends, obviously, if they're real friends of yours they wouldn't give a damn if you were glowing with love as long as your shoulder is a freehold lease for their tears when and where they need it. That's my take on things, anyway.
Here's a quote from a fellow blogger for those friends in troubled situations:
"Don't waste time obsessing over someone who gives you nothing in return. If this is what you're experiencing, look at yourself. You're tapping into deep routed issues/patterns of behaviour that run deep in you. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! Don't waste any more of your time. Fix yourself so you don't keep letting the wrong people affect you in the worst way!"
- Alexi Wasser.
Write that down.
Write that down.
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