You know when you wake up with Meredith Grey's voice reading the morning soliloquy in your head that it's going to be one hell of a dark and twisty day. It's as if you just know you're going to be performing hardcore metaphoric surgery on your life... and slap my ass and call me Sally if you don't bump into a tumor or two along the way.
Why is it that you can have a great day, go to sleep, wake up... have ONE thought and suddenly the whole day just seems like too much to handle?
The fear of failure, the fear of pain, or of hardships... it is sometimes so strong against the weakened optimism of certain people that it's enough to not only send you to your knees, but actually keep you lying in bed in your PJs all day.
What is this unreasonable depression? There is no reason behind it. There's no trigger. It's just... hormones.
So we do what society expects us to do: get out of bed, make that cup of joe (which has NO magical cheering properties whatsoever, believe me), take a shower and put your game face on. You put off that fear until the end of the day where you can dissect it in the privacy of your own bed and tell yourself it was all unfounded.
Thursday 17 June 2010
Tuesday 8 June 2010
Tell Me Your Troubles
It is a well known fact (feel free to contest me on this as I am clearly not bothered with actual research) that as women spend an increasing amount of time with each other, their monthly cycles begin to align.
There is also the thing called the Break-up Season.
Oh, you know the one: You hear that a friend of yours just broke up with their long-term boyfriend, and then you're told that your cousin and his girlfriend have called it quits as well, then your barista puts far too much milk in your coffee and she starts crying about her failed relationship when you confront her over the counter, etc.
So what happens when you're in a healthy, perfectly imperfect relationship during this season?
Are you supposed to hide your happiness when certain people are present? Do you fake indifference? Have you ever felt the need to create drama within your own relationship simply to fit in? HAHA that last one was a joke, obviously. No seriously, there can't possibly be anybody crazy enough or depraved enough to do that.
I can't give a definite answer to those questions. It depends on your friends, obviously, if they're real friends of yours they wouldn't give a damn if you were glowing with love as long as your shoulder is a freehold lease for their tears when and where they need it. That's my take on things, anyway.
Here's a quote from a fellow blogger for those friends in troubled situations:
"Don't waste time obsessing over someone who gives you nothing in return. If this is what you're experiencing, look at yourself. You're tapping into deep routed issues/patterns of behaviour that run deep in you. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! Don't waste any more of your time. Fix yourself so you don't keep letting the wrong people affect you in the worst way!"
There is also the thing called the Break-up Season.
Oh, you know the one: You hear that a friend of yours just broke up with their long-term boyfriend, and then you're told that your cousin and his girlfriend have called it quits as well, then your barista puts far too much milk in your coffee and she starts crying about her failed relationship when you confront her over the counter, etc.
So what happens when you're in a healthy, perfectly imperfect relationship during this season?
Are you supposed to hide your happiness when certain people are present? Do you fake indifference? Have you ever felt the need to create drama within your own relationship simply to fit in? HAHA that last one was a joke, obviously. No seriously, there can't possibly be anybody crazy enough or depraved enough to do that.
I can't give a definite answer to those questions. It depends on your friends, obviously, if they're real friends of yours they wouldn't give a damn if you were glowing with love as long as your shoulder is a freehold lease for their tears when and where they need it. That's my take on things, anyway.
Here's a quote from a fellow blogger for those friends in troubled situations:
"Don't waste time obsessing over someone who gives you nothing in return. If this is what you're experiencing, look at yourself. You're tapping into deep routed issues/patterns of behaviour that run deep in you. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! Don't waste any more of your time. Fix yourself so you don't keep letting the wrong people affect you in the worst way!"
- Alexi Wasser.
Write that down.
Write that down.
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